Why Fear Doesn’t Have To Hold You Back

By December 20, 2014Personal Power

Fear is a natural reaction when you’re moving closer to the truth. -Pema Chödrön This was a quote I heard while watching a video about the art of life.

We’ve all heard it before. One of the most common acronyms for fear is false expectations appearing real.

Yet, we still allow it to plague us and our lives.

In the spirit of the new year, I thought it only appropriate to write a post about overcoming our greatest fears.

For my own fear, was not heights, or speed…but we’ll get into that later.

It had been a long time since I had a ridden a horse and here I am in the lush jungles of Costa Rica with my husband and my mom.

Embrace The Truth Of Your Fears

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Some of the horses appeared to be happy by nature, while others were so comfortable, they peed as you sat on them.

Yep, mine did that.

Anyway, here we are riding through the jungles, a coffee acre, a wealthy man’s natural preserve, and the hidden gems that are Costa Rica.

As my horse kicked up speed, I felt a rush of adrenaline. Here I am, out, riding free. I felt the wind through my hair, closed my eyes, out of joy and a tad bit of fear.

Here I was ducking from branches, and at that same time, I learned the difference between working for money and money working for you.

Not everyone, but some of us still believe in freedom.

Whether you see vigilantes or hero’s, even Sony has buckled under the clad fist.

Actors who have spoken out, and say they believe this one event, are saying this is the stage to crippling the rights of speech to all businesses, enterprises, and shifting the entertainment industry as we know it.

My only question is. Is that such a bad thing?

In every facet of our life, there has been innovation.

To the construction and material of the homes we live in, to the health standards of an electric toothbrush.

Each innovation has faced its own persecution.

So much so, they will battle, for what they think they need when in fact, another option may be more efficient.

Whose to say that your fear isn’t a real life threat?

Ask yourself these three questions to determine if it is:

1. Is your life in danger due to this fear?

2. Are the people around you lives in danger?

3. Has there ever been an individual who overcame fears similar to yours?

Chances are if you answered NO for the first two questions, your fear is in all your head.

No, I’m not calling you crazy. In fact, it’s quite the opposite.

open your heart

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In his book, Maxwell Maltz, goes to say that the self image can be changed. He then shows you case after case of that happening.

What seems to get people is when it is themselves.

Now all of a sudden there is a certain circumstance that is unique solely to you and due to it, there is no possible way you could ever _______ (you fill in the blank).

The belief of fear being a real threat is what we have to work on in the first place.

Have you ever heard the phrase, rich people think like…insert some wise saying closely resembling Buddha.

Well it’s true!

People who are more successful than the mass quota is usually because of a higher work ethic to achieving their goals.

They are willing to work harder, longer, for as long as it takes.

Where as the individual whose knees buckle every time he sets forth toward his goal, quivers and runs away. There is a reason why we do that.

I’m 28, so imagine the programming from society, family, friends, teachers, and those of authority through my twenty-eight years.

The older you are, the longer you’ve had the opportunity of facing this same programming.

To the way we do things, to how we do things, to even what we believe, can all be traced to some programming along the way.

Some beneficial and others just not useful at all.

Believing in fear is one of them.

Once you’ve crossed over the side of knowing fear is not real.

Now what?

Releasing Your Fear And Opening Your Heart

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Here are 4 things you can do to kick fear in the butt.

Educate yourself: Just as the prestige of a university degree can give confidence to a graduate out in workforce of their major, or as the neighborhood hustler whose made it big. Education can and will make or break you. And don’t think ignorance keeps you covered. What you don’t know can hurt you and once you know that, it’s time for you to get in the minds of those who have what you want.

Meditate daily: In a previous post, I share some of the benefits to meditating. I do believe strongly in the power of meditation and the healing it brings. For at least fifteen minutes a day, take the time to be alone, and to breath. Calming your breath with each thought and letting it go. There is strength in silence. Find it.

Write and burn: I first heard of this ritual from a spiritual guide in Colorado. It was my first time visiting an individual liker her and during our session, she spoke to me about the effects of writing and burning. To write our fears, insecurities down on paper and then to burn the paper. The fire will release the negative energy and allow you to move forward. It also makes for a great way to visualize your fear vanishing.

Action creates habit: Maybe the best way to overcome fear is to go for it. Instead of talking yourself out of it, try talking yourself into why you should do it. Anytime, I see myself letting fear creep in, I shut it down by doing this technique. The more you talk yourself into why you should do something, the easier it becomes.

Something else I failed to mention earlier, is a method that may not be the simplest to do but has drastic results.

About seven years ago, my husband and I, moved to Costa Rica. Here’s why.

We did it to surround ourselves in a new environment that would allow us to grow, learn and educate ourselves. It’s a lot easier to ditch old ways of thinking when you remove yourself from people who think that way.

Don’t you see?

It’s not enough to have good intentions and make twelve different resolutions, that this time we won’t break. If you aren’t willing to actually do something in order to change where you are, things will always be the same.

With love and light,